What is it that makes for a strong and deep friendship? And what does it take to maintain and grow such a friendship? The topic is much broader than I can pursue in a short essay, but I would like to explore several aspects of friendship that have struck me through experience and reflection.
Friendship is a matter of connecting at a deeper and more personal level than that. The salient fact I've realized in seeking potential friends and building friendships is that there are precious few people with whom I can truly connect in life. You are fortunate if you find half a dozen good friends with whom you have a deep affinity. Indeed, there are so many ways not to connect with another person that it's astonishing that people find close friends at all.
A friend feeds us with the silent glance that says it all, for good or ill. The one-word joke that would take two hours to explain (and even then would be hardly worth explaining). Trust with secrets. Courage to bear shame and weakness. The shorthand language that makes life easier in times of joy and times of pain. Acceptance even when we've behaved abominably. Honesty, and just the right amount of lack thereof in times of travail. The whole world so full of possibility for no other reason than that this person exists. My friend. How could this be easy? And yet, even the most difficult things are made easier in the presence of a true friend.
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